पुरुष पैसे से ज्यादा महिलाओं के पीछे क्यों हैं?
पुरुष पैसे से ज्यादा महिलाओं के पीछे क्यों हैं?
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पुरुष पैसे से ज्यादा महिलाओं के पीछे क्यों हैं?
पुरुष पैसे से ज्यादा महिलाओं के पीछे क्यों हैं?
Read lessAs a 29-year-old Indian woman with two children, I am considering a divorce from my husband and wondering about my future prospects with men. I am uncertain how long I will remain uninterested in dating, and I am curious if ...Read more
As a 29-year-old Indian woman with two children, I am considering a divorce from my husband and wondering about my future prospects with men. I am uncertain how long I will remain uninterested in dating, and I am curious if this will impact my ability to find a new partner.
Read lessIf you're considering divorce but haven't shared the reason why, please take a moment to read this. As someone who has recently gone through a divorce in India, I understand how difficult and lonely life can be post-divorce. While it's possible to move past this phase, it takes time and effort. BefoRead more
If you’re considering divorce but haven’t shared the reason why, please take a moment to read this. As someone who has recently gone through a divorce in India, I understand how difficult and lonely life can be post-divorce. While it’s possible to move past this phase, it takes time and effort. Before choosing divorce, it’s important to try to work on your current marriage. Only consider divorce for reasons such as physical abuse, infidelity, or addiction. If there are other reasons, it’s best for both of you to work on them before making a final decision.
Before taking any action, take some time to think things over. Avoid making decisions when you’re sad or angry. Try to understand your partner’s perspective and differentiate between emotions and logic during conflicts. It’s also recommended to seek professional help, such as counseling or therapy, to gain a third-party perspective. Be open-minded and non-judgmental when listening to feedback. If there’s a chance to work things out with your partner, take it.
If none of these options work, divorce may be the best decision. However, before making a final decision, reflect on the good times you’ve shared together. Is it worth losing the relationship that has brought you so much joy and happiness? If not, try to find the root cause and work together to address it. Consider taking a trip together to reconnect and strengthen your bond.
Please note that I have not yet addressed the aspect of children in this situation.
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AdviceGuru
In Mumbai, my husband abandoned our family consisting of myself and our two children. He relocated to Chennai where he currently lives with his sister’s family and their mother. In response, I sent him a notice for separation and child ...Read more
In Mumbai, my husband abandoned our family consisting of myself and our two children. He relocated to Chennai where he currently lives with his sister’s family and their mother. In response, I sent him a notice for separation and child maintenance. However, my mother-in-law filed a false FIR claiming my husband was missing, to evade any responsibility. Although he is not missing, Indian law does not take any action against a missing person until seven years have passed. Despite my efforts to seek help from helplines and officials through various email addresses, I have been unsuccessful in resolving the issue. Can someone please provide me with the email address of the Delhi Police Department that deals with women’s issues? Furthermore, what actions does the Indian police take against individuals who file false FIRs and misuse the law? I would appreciate it if someone could guide me on whom to approach to address this situation and how to make my husband respond to the notice and cooperate regarding the children’s maintenance.
Read lessI'm sorry to hear about your situation. I cannot provide legal advice or specific contact information for police departments. However, I can give you some general guidance that may help. Regarding the false FIR filed by your mother-in-law, you can file a counter-complaint against her. The procedureRead more
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I cannot provide legal advice or specific contact information for police departments. However, I can give you some general guidance that may help.
Regarding the false FIR filed by your mother-in-law, you can file a counter-complaint against her. The procedure for this may vary depending on the state in which you reside. You may want to consult with a lawyer to guide you through this process.
In terms of making your husband respond to the notice for separation and maintenance, you may need to hire a lawyer who can send him a legal notice on your behalf. If he still does not respond, you can file a case in court to seek maintenance for yourself and your children. A lawyer can help you with this as well.
To find the contact information for the police department in Tamil Nadu that handles issues faced by women, you can try searching online or reaching out to local women’s organizations. They may be able to provide you with the relevant contact information or refer you to someone who can help.
Overall, it’s important to seek legal advice and assistance to navigate this situation effectively.
See lessउसने कहा है कि वह बहुत सारे पैसे कमाता है। उसने बताया कि उसकी सबसे ज्यादा कमाई 300000 रुपये थी और अब वह 150000 कमा रहा है। मैं उसके फोन पर थी और उसने अपनी माँ के साथ टैक्स के ...Read more
उसने कहा है कि वह बहुत सारे पैसे कमाता है। उसने बताया कि उसकी सबसे ज्यादा कमाई 300000 रुपये थी और अब वह 150000 कमा रहा है। मैं उसके फोन पर थी और उसने अपनी माँ के साथ टैक्स के बारे में एक मैसेज देखा जिसमें लिखा था कि उसने पिछले साल 80k कमाए थे। वह बहुत सारी चीजें खरीदता है। मैंने उसकी माँ के टिप्पणियों को देखा है जहाँ उन्होंने कहा है कि उसे ज्यादा बचाना और खर्च रोकना चाहिए। हाल ही में हम एक छुट्टी पर गए थे और उसने बार-बार यह बताते रहे कि कमरे का किराया 8000 है, लेकिन जब मैं ऑनलाइन देखा तो वह 2500 ही था। मुझे इसका पता उसके फोन पर देखकर चला। वह भी कहा है कि उसका कोई कर्ज नहीं है लेकिन शायद उसका कर्ज बहुत है – मुझे इसके बारे में ज्यादा नहीं पता है। हम साथ में रहने की योजना बना रहे हैं इसलिए मैं इस बारे में खुली बातचीत करना चाहती हूं।
Read lessIt is advisable for you to leave the situation as the person may be dishonest with you and may not handle their finances responsibly.
It is advisable for you to leave the situation as the person may be dishonest with you and may not handle their finances responsibly.
See lessHave you ever viewed messages that appear on your partner’s phone without their consent?
Have you ever viewed messages that appear on your partner’s phone without their consent?
Read lessBy utilizing the aforementioned survey questions for couples, counselors can gain insight into the dynamics of a relationship and identify potential issues or challenges that may be affecting it.
By utilizing the aforementioned survey questions for couples, counselors can gain insight into the dynamics of a relationship and identify potential issues or challenges that may be affecting it.
Read lessWhat is the quality that you value the most in your partner and love the most?
What is the quality that you value the most in your partner and love the most?
Read lessI have developed romantic feelings for a man who happens to be married. I discovered his marital status only recently and he claims to be unhappy in his marriage, with plans to divorce in the near future. What course of ...Read more
I have developed romantic feelings for a man who happens to be married. I discovered his marital status only recently and he claims to be unhappy in his marriage, with plans to divorce in the near future. What course of action should I take?
Read lessLet me explain to you what's going to happen. The man you are involved with will not leave his wife. Instead, he will continue to maintain this relationship for as long as you believe his story that he is unhappy and working on getting a divorce. However, when you begin to question why he hasn't filRead more
Let me explain to you what’s going to happen. The man you are involved with will not leave his wife. Instead, he will continue to maintain this relationship for as long as you believe his story that he is unhappy and working on getting a divorce. However, when you begin to question why he hasn’t filed for divorce yet, he will come up with excuses like legal issues or his wife not being cooperative. As time goes on, his stories will become more elaborate, and he will use the need for discretion to avoid doing anything for you. When you pressure him to get a divorce, he will end things with you because he wants to remain married but also have affairs. He pretended to be single when you met him, and his excuse of being unhappy in his marriage and trying to get a divorce is a tired one that has been used by many two-timing married men. There is no need for him to have trouble getting divorced, and I am certain that if he were honest with his wife about his relationship with you, he would be divorced by now. He is simply using the excuse of getting a divorce to cover up his desire for an affair.
Thanks,
AdviceGuru
Namaste all. I (37M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (37F) for 7 years. Recently, she asked me to gain weight, saying that she doesn’t want to be the heavier one. She weighs 97 kg at 5’2″ and ...Read more
Namaste all. I (37M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (37F) for 7 years. Recently, she asked me to gain weight, saying that she doesn’t want to be the heavier one. She weighs 97 kg at 5’2″ and has no children. During a medical checkup for work/insurance purposes, she found out that her BMI is 40.8, which is considered third-class obesity. She thought she was just a little overweight or curvy, but was shocked to learn her true weight.
I am 5’7″ and weigh 68kg. I’m not sure how to respond to her without offending or hurting her. Our lifestyles are different due to our jobs. I have a physically intensive job, exercise regularly (play football), and try to eat healthily when I can. She works from home, doesn’t exercise, and eats mostly processed foods with little to no fruits or vegetables.
Since finding out her true weight, her behavior towards others has become sour. She criticizes thin women’s appearances or their choice of outfits. For example, she commented on a neighbor leaving for a night out, saying, “you’d think she’d try and cover up how flat-chested she is.” Another time, she saw a woman jogging and asked me what I would do if she looked like that, saying the woman looked too manly and disgusting.
I don’t know how to respond the next time she brings up me gaining weight. She believes that as the man in the relationship, I should be the heavier one. However, I don’t want to change my body or health for anyone. I don’t know how to express this to her without coming across as the bad one.
TLDR
My girlfriend (37F, 97kg, 5’2″) wants me (37M, 5’7″, 68kg) to gain weight so that she can be the lighter one. I’m not sure how to respond without offending or hurting her. Our lifestyles are different, and since finding out her true weight, she criticizes other women’s appearances. I don’t want to change my body or health for anyone and need to express this to her without being the bad one.
Read lessIt sounds like your girlfriend's request for you to gain weight is rooted in her own insecurities about her weight and body image issues. However, it's not fair for her to project those issues onto you or to criticize other people's appearances. It's important to have a frank and honest conversationRead more
It sounds like your girlfriend’s request for you to gain weight is rooted in her own insecurities about her weight and body image issues. However, it’s not fair for her to project those issues onto you or to criticize other people’s appearances.
It’s important to have a frank and honest conversation with her about how you feel. Let her know that you love her and are concerned about her health, but that you are not willing to compromise your own health and well-being to meet her expectations. You can suggest that you both work together to make healthier lifestyle choices, such as eating more fruits and vegetables and incorporating more physical activity into your daily routine.
You can also express your concerns about her negative behavior towards others and encourage her to seek professional help if necessary. It’s important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, but also to assert your own boundaries and priorities.
See lessMy spouse and I have been married for two years. Since last Sunday night, he hasn’t uttered a single word to me. The following day, I observed his unresponsiveness during breakfast and later at dinner, he took his plate and ...Read more
My spouse and I have been married for two years. Since last Sunday night, he hasn’t uttered a single word to me. The following day, I observed his unresponsiveness during breakfast and later at dinner, he took his plate and ate alone in the spare room, where he’s been sleeping all week. He’s been avoiding me in the house and disregarding me when I try to communicate with him, despite us not having any disagreement. I’m unable to fathom the reason for his behavior.
Read lessThe situation described suggests that there is a breakdown in communication between you and your spouse. While you have not had any disagreements, your spouse's behavior indicates that something may be troubling them. It is important to approach the situation with empathy and try to understand theirRead more
The situation described suggests that there is a breakdown in communication between you and your spouse. While you have not had any disagreements, your spouse’s behavior indicates that something may be troubling them. It is important to approach the situation with empathy and try to understand their perspective. It may be helpful to initiate a conversation with them to express your concern and ask how they are feeling. It could also be worthwhile to suggest seeking professional counseling to work through any underlying issues.
Thanks,
AdviceGuru
औरत एक आदमी के लिए वही है जो नशा एक नशेड़ी के लिए। जैसे कोई नशा छोड़ना मुश्किल है, वैसे ही कोई औरत से दूर रहना मुश्किल है। इसका कोई मुकाबला नहीं है। जब किसी मर्द को औरत की ज़रूरत होती है, तो वह सारे समाजिक और पारिवारिक मर्यादाओं को भूल जाता है। उसके शरीर में ऐसे परिवर्तन होते हैं, जिन पर उसका काबू नहRead more
औरत एक आदमी के लिए वही है जो नशा एक नशेड़ी के लिए। जैसे कोई नशा छोड़ना मुश्किल है, वैसे ही कोई औरत से दूर रहना मुश्किल है। इसका कोई मुकाबला नहीं है। जब किसी मर्द को औरत की ज़रूरत होती है, तो वह सारे समाजिक और पारिवारिक मर्यादाओं को भूल जाता है। उसके शरीर में ऐसे परिवर्तन होते हैं, जिन पर उसका काबू नहीं होता है। कितने ही सख्त कानून हों, पर उस समय मर्द मौत का ख़तरा भी नहीं सोचता है। पैसे कमाने के लिए, मनुष्य को हार्मोन्स का प्रभाव नहीं पड़ता है। पैसे कमाने में कुछ ख़ामियाँ होने पर, मनुष्य पैसे कमाने का सपना छोड़ सकता है, क्योंकि पैसे कमाने में मेहनत करनी पड़ती है, पर पैसे कमाने से ख़ुशी मिलना ज़रूरी नहीं होती है। महिला के सिवाय, समाज में साधारण ज़िन्दगी जीने वाले मुश्किल से मिलेंगे । मुझे तो योगी और संन्यासी भी औरत के प्यार में फँसे हुए दिखे हैं।
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